Dear Younger Me: “You’re Stupid”

Hello beautiful people!!!

 

That title was a little harsh wasn’t it? Sorry about that.

This past Sunday at my friend’s church the pastor was talking about obeying your authority. It was recited, “Children obey your parents,” as in the bible and it really made me think. There are many things that my parents tried to teach me that I felt I needed to learn on my own through my own mistakes; from my relationship to how my future is going to play out. To have someone tell you that you’re stupid for agreeing with someone you love and truly care about because of “loyalty” is a horrible feeling. At the point I am now in my life, I’m glad to have been called stupid because I’ve never fought for something I cared about as much as I have in the past year.

I’m 20 (21 in August!) and I moved out of my parents’ houses for the first time 6 months ago. Has it been easy? Hell no! I’m glad I did it though. Maybe not at the exact time I did but I would never hand back the lessons I’ve learned. I don’t regret anything that I’ve done thus far in my life but there are many things I’ve learned that I consider the real definition of life lessons. Not everything has to be self taught though.

Therefore, my roommates and I have come up with 10 things that we wish we could go back in time and tell ourselves. I know not everyone is going to take away something away from this. If this post helps at least one person then I’m doing my job right and I’m okay with that.

So, here goes 10 things we wish we could go back and tell ourselves:

  1. Don’t be in a hurry to move out.- I’m not saying stay in your parent’s house forever. I’m just saying don’t be so quick to move out on your own if you don’t have to. It is a very hard journey if you do not have everything in align already. If you’re going to move out young just make sure you have your ducks in a row first.
  2. Don’t be so flighty.– Everything you do is a lesson. Slow down and learn as much as possible from the situations you’re in. Yes, you should experience different jobs and hobbies but don’t just jump from one thing to the next. Just see what happens when you stick out something. It might not actually be that bad.
  3. Don’t give up so easily.- Life is hard. It always will be. The moment you don’t believe in yourself and you don’t trust yourself that you’ll do better, you will fail every time. Chasing your dreams and pursuing your passions is not an easy road to go down. Don’t give up. School is hard. Don’t give up. It’s taking you a little longer than you expected to get to where you want to be. Don’t give up.
  4. Enjoy the small things. – We are not guaranteed tomorrow. Watch the news. Appreciate the small things in life because one day you might not have them anymore.
  5. Take ALL of the opportunities.- Any opportunity to be a better you is an opportunity for growth. It might be scary to step out of your comfort zone but it’s do-able. You will never know your maximum potential if you don’t try.
  6. Take risks. – This ties in with taking every opportunity. Fall for that person society or your family wouldn’t picture you with (as long as you’re happy and healthy). Take the job. Visit that place you’ve always dreamed of going. Tell that person you love how you really feel. All of the scary things you’re afraid to do, do it.
  7. Save your money- NO LOANS!- I can’t emphasize this enough. I was always told to have a savings because you never know what’s going to happen. There have been plenty of times where I should’ve been able to handle what I was going through but I didn’t have any money saved. Do yourself a favor and just put some aside and stay away from loans.
  8. Prioritize yourself. – Make sure that you’re putting your happiness first because at the end of the day you’re stuck with you, no one else is. Date until your heart is content but never forget to put your priorities first. Even if you’re committed, taking care of someone else doesn’t mean stop caring for yourself. Don’t be selfish, just be aware. Check in with yourself every once in a while and see how you’re feeling.
  9. Make mistakes.– Like I said before: life is hard. Don’t be afraid to make mistakes. We all do. Just make sure that you learn from them as well. Many lessons are taught through mistakes so don’t be afraid to fail just do it fast so you can move on and succeed.
  10. Don’t be afraid to be you.– Last but not least. This is the biggest lesson to me. No matter what stage in life you are, you may or may not have found yourself yet. Whatever stages you go through to get there, embrace them. Learn from them. Don’t let anyone tell you who you are. Like I said, you’re stuck with you until the day you die. Make it worth it. Just be you.

This is only the beginning for us but we have learned so much in the short 21 years we’ve been on this Earth. If there are any tips or life hacks that you feel teenagers or children these days need to know feel free to add to this list. There is so much learning and teaching that needs to be done and always will be.

Keep learning. Keep teaching.

XoXo,
Lex

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